I was talking with a client yesterday about a number of topics she was struggling with this week. She’s smart, articulate, hard-working, driven. I say this because her problems don’t stem from laziness or lack of intelligence. After almost an hour of strategizing and problem solving, I stopped cold, looked her in the eyes and said, “I’ve got it.”
At that moment, it occurred to me what the common thread of all her problems were: She didn’t value herself as much as she valued everyone else.
Let it sink in.
She didn’t value herself as much as she valued everyone else.
Do you protect your time on your calendar, so you can get to the important work that needs your attention, OR do you allow people to schedule over top of you, while you regularly shift your appointments around them?
Do you set and maintain appropriate boundaries that allow you to create work and life balance, OR do you work late nights and weekends trying to prove yourself?
Do you use your voice to let others know what you need in order to be successful, OR do you just accept what others are willing to give, regardless of how it makes you feel?
These are just a few examples, but all of them tell me whether you value yourself as much as you value others. If you want to be high performing, you have to find a way to care for yourself, to think what you do matters, to respect yourself. It breeds confidence, and people like confidence.
Today’s mantra: “Who you are and who you are not is good enough.” Say it out loud. Repeat it. Scream it at the top of your lungs. Unless you believe this, you won’t value yourself, and that will hold you back. Don’t let it. You’re worth it.